There’s a difficult truth that sits at the intersection of emotional trauma, personality structure, and unmet attachment needs:  Sometimes, someone with narcissistic  traits genuinely felt something for you , and still couldn’t hold onto it.   Not because they were faking it.  Not because they were trying to manipulate you from the very first moment.  But because their system lacks the object constancy required to hold onto emotional connection when they’re dysregulated. This

Most people assume all unwanted thoughts belong to the same chaotic category ,the mental static that disrupts your focus, startles you in the middle of a quiet afternoon, or nudges you toward something you never intended to say or do. But the mind is far more precise than we give it credit for. Not all unwanted thoughts are created equal. Two types in particular often get confused: intrusive thoughts  and impulsive thoughts .The confusion makes sense ,both appear suddenly, bo

Anxious attachment doesn’t come from being “too sensitive” or “needy.”  It comes from early experiences that taught you love is conditional , attention is inconsistent, and closeness is something you must earn by hyper-attuning to others. As an adult, this often shows up in relationships as: Overthinking every interaction Fear of abandonment Anxiety when someone pulls away Overgiving, overexplaining, and emotionally overfunctioning Difficulty feeling secure, even when things

Words hold power , but only if we use them with precision. And few words in today’s mental health discourse have been more misused, diluted, and thrown around casually than “gaslighting.” On social media, almost any form of conflict is now labeled gaslighting.  If someone disagrees with your memory? “Gaslighting.”  If someone challenges your interpretation of an event? “Gaslighting.”  If someone is simply unkind, rude, or oblivious? Again , “Gaslighting.” But that’s not what

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