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There’s a difficult truth that sits at the intersection of emotional trauma, personality structure, and unmet attachment needs:  Sometimes, someone with narcissistic  traits genuinely felt something for you , and still couldn’t hold onto it.   Not because they were faking it.  Not because they were trying to manipulate you from the very first moment.  But because their system lacks the object constancy required to hold onto emotional connection when they’re dysregulated. This doesn’t excuse...

Words hold power , but only if we use them with precision. And few words in today’s mental health discourse have been more misused, diluted, and thrown around casually than “gaslighting.” On social media, almost any form of conflict is now labeled gaslighting.  If someone disagrees with your memory? “Gaslighting.”  If someone challenges your interpretation of an event? “Gaslighting.”  If someone is simply unkind, rude, or oblivious? Again , “Gaslighting.” But that’s not what gaslighting...

Every relationship hits seasons where intimacy feels fragile. Maybe it’s after a fight that left lingering hurt. Maybe it’s after months...