There’s a narrative that gets recycled over and over in dating culture: “But the chemistry was insane.” “I’ve never felt this kind of connection before.” “It’s magnetic, but also a little toxic.” Let’s pause right there. Chemistry , without consistency, kindness, or alignment , is not a green flag.  It’s often a trap door into dysregulation, not intimacy. And no matter how intense the spark feels, if the person on the other side of it is emotionally inconsistent, unkind, or m